Broken bowl... and whole parenting

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This morning, my son spilled his bottle of juice all over the table. We were running late and I had to be at a local TV station to promote a charity event; somehow, I kept my cool, tossed him a towel, and helped him clean it up. 

"We all make mistakes," I said. 

And it's a good thing I said that, because not two minutes later, I dropped a bowl and it shattered all over the kitchen floor. What can you do at that point but sweep it up and move on, right? 

I haven't always been patient with him when messes happen, and I certainly haven't ever been a perfect parent. But when there is a small victory like that, when I can stay calm, I can remind myself that I'm doing a good job. With parenting, there is no formal assessment or annual review with a bonus; there is only the small moments day to day. 

Shattered bowl ----> whole parenting. I'll take it.

Glaring Airing: 2018 Television Shows Air Dates (Guest post by Madison Ward)

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Editor's Note: Madison is our entertainment guru, keeping us up to date on the latest books, TV shows, and movies. She loves to cover pop culture and I'm glad to have her voice in this capacity.

{This post written by Madison Ward, Superstar Intern}

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I don’t know what it is about this year--maybe it’s the particular shows I have begun watching or maybe it’s just a busy year on TV--but I have never had to wait so long for all the episodes of a season to come out. Many of the television shows I have been watching have been skipping week after week, creating a very inconsistent viewing base and driving me off a cliff. My favorites, like Lethal Weapon, Supernatural, and The Good Doctor are prime examples. Sundays I go into the week prepared to be disappointed, not knowing if this week the next episode will be on, or if I will have to wait one or two more weeks. And these aren’t even the winter breaks! Winter breaks are one too two months and then the second half of the season is wrapped up. However,  that first half and second half of the airing season has been incredibly inconsistent on it’s own: playing an episode, and another episode, then nothing, episode, nothing, nothing, episode, episode, episode, nothing, nothing, episode.

Some people I know have even had to change the way they watch TV, just to soothe their irate attitudes towards the gaps. Many have resorted to binge watching after the ENTIRE season has aired, waiting even longer because of the hassle of figuring out the complicated schedule of the airing of their favorite shows.

My shows this year that should have taken four months have transformed into six or longer. I have some amount of patience (some might disagree), but I for sure have no patience to wait this long and other viewers agree. Television shows such as Game of Thrones, True Detective, Stranger Things, and Fargo are so intricately made that they take forever to air. Not weekly, but season by season, according to Entertainment Weekly. Because of heavily computer-animated shows and Netflix Originals, some series have taken more than a year before another release. And sometimes, on the very edge of not even being able to air, because the length of the off-season left viewers lacking enthusiasm and drive to get invested in them again.

There is a specific amount of time with movies, TV series, and books with which one must deliver some type of consumption to tide over an audience before they lose interest--just like airing too frequently can easily bore fans with lack of anticipation and suspense. If one steps too far into one of these zones, not finding a happy medium with releases, then there is limited hope that that series will stay successful, no matter how good it is.

In regard to the shows I watch, I do love them enough that I am willing to wait for them, but it is still an inconvenience and an irritation. Others don’t possess the extreme obsession I have with TV entertainment. This year has some promising TV entertainment, but the year has been dreadful in consistency and if it is not careful, will lose audiences interests exponentially.

I am not an expert, but if I were these television series creators, I would set my schedule way in advance to make sure nothing veers off course. There will be always be weird instances of political disaster or weather emergencies that may interrupt a well-laid plan, but at least we have a well-laid plan, because it doesn’t feel that way right now. These rocky releases make the shows seem messy and can affect audience’s interests, and in my opinion, networks should think about that well before and create more routine than is being represented in today’s TV.

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Join me in Buda at the 21st annual wiener dog races!

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Have you ever seen a wiener dog race? Here’s your chance! "Wonder Wieners" is the theme of Buda's annual dachshund race, and every spring, people come to watch from all over the area.

The 21st annual Buda Lions Wiener Dog Races is super-fun family event, and tickets are only $5.00 per person over 12, and FREE For kids 12 and under. The annual races, which are in their 21st year, are April 28 and 29 at Buda City Park. Festivities start at 8 a.m. and end at 6 p.m., while the wiener dog races begin at 10 a.m. All proceeds go toward the Buda Lions Club. Want to enter your very own wiener dog? The entry form can be found on the Buda Lions Club page

The money raised at this event goes right back into the community. The Buda Lions Club supports kids’ vision screening events at the local schools, donating funds towards local school scholarships, and helping out the Texas Lions Camp, which is a camping facility for children with physical disabilities. 

Also at the event, you’ll find Arts & Crafts vendors, an assortment of food vendors, kids games, a BBQ cook-off, and a bake-off. New this year is a separate mixed-breed set of races. 

Firehouse Animal Health Center is the official event vet, and they are a full-service veterinary hospital with five locations in Central Texas. They combine state-of-the-art medical care, innovative design, thoughtful communication, excellent client service and a focus on total wellness to create comfortable, stress-free experiences for people and their pets. Want to give them a try? We have a $55 coupon right here.

You’ll find the full schedule of events here. Mosey on down and park at Cabela’s, which is free, and complimentary shuttles will be provided to Buda City Park. See you there!

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Make someone's day today

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Photo by Lina Trochez on Unsplash

I wrote a note to the boss of a member of my son's school staff today to report her... for being awesome. Try it! You'll make someone's day.

"I'm sure you already know this, but I wanted to commend Amanda for being such a wonderful representative of the community in the front office. My mother was a school secretary for an elementary school for 25 years, and I was always in awe of how she knew every kid and teacher and greeted each person with a smile. Seeing Amanda every time I come to the office reminds me of my mom, and it makes me feel good. She has a stellar attitude and energy about her, and I feel lucky to volunteer in the office under her supervision."

 

Hope Binge-ing {Guest post by Madison Ward}

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Editor's Note: Madison is our entertainment guru, keeping us up to date on the latest books, TV shows, and movies. She loves to cover pop culture and I'm glad to have her voice in this capacity.

{This post written by Madison Ward, Superstar Intern}

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Because I have introduced Netflix into the equation, it is only natural that I would reflect on one of the strongest foundations grounding the business.

The Office.

A show that reflects on the pains of the everyday workplace. A show that emulates what it really means to be alive in a world where income, and sustainability, and - most of all - patience is required. A show that breeds futility and overall disbelief, but is filled with heartfelt love and reality that perfectly displays why we do what we do day in and day out and what the little things that keep us going are really worth.

The Office is a comedic, fictional documentary about workers at the Dunder Mifflin Paper Company in Scranton, Pennsylvania. Created by Greg Daniels, Ricky Gervais, and Stephen Merchant, The Office premiered on March 24, 2005 and has lived in millions of hearts ever since.

Painfully awkward and heart-wrenchingly awkward, The Office demonstrates any type of issue we may and will find ourselves in as adults working with other inconsistent adults. The first season may have one halfway covering one’s face with a throw pillow, with some occasional muting, but seeing the dynamic way the show develops and evolves each and every one of the characters, each and every season, is unquestionably remarkable.

It is a show that displays every imperfection, every possible way to screw things up. And it is a show that advocates compassion, and responsibility, and teamwork. It is a show about family that may not be connected by blood, but that is connected by duty (which the show would indubitably make a joke out of).

The Office is so popular, in fact, the internet is flooded with GIFs and memes referencing parts of the show, which I may even call most humorous television show I have ever seen and may ever see. I have a black T-shirt emblazoned with the words“Bears, Beets, Battlestar Galactica”, at which my English teacher laughed and was impressed people my age are watching it--even now that it has been over for five years. The Office is an example for generations and generations to come. It will never grow old, because it’s struggles are so relate-able--so human--that I venture to guess there will always be an audience trying to escape their own similar stress.

I have watched a lot of things—especially a lot of Netflix things, new and old—but there really is nothing like The Office, and I hope there never is. I have re-watched the show, all nine seasons (really eight though, let’s be honest, the first season is painful), six times so far, and I first finished it last spring. I have almost all Dwight Schrute and Jim Halpert conversations memorized. I cry every time I watch the finale.

It may seem trivial, it may seem aggravating, and some people just may not be into that sort of thing. But this is one of the things you at least have to try, because I promise you… It is worth it.

The Office is about people, about relationships, about just some random, ordinary paper company. But it is more than that. Because it is about overcoming and about renewing, about finding what makes you happy--even working at some random, ordinary paper company.

This television show is about hopelessness. And it is about hope.

In summary: just in case you’re not already, get started on your hope binge-ing!

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It's Iris Awards Season, and it's Time to Nominate Your Favorites!

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Last year, I watched several of my friends take the stage the Mom 2.0 Summit to accept awards for the great work they have done, including Amiyrah Martin, Wendi Aarons, Jennifer Borget, and Amanda Magee. It means so much to know that your creativity is appreciated and applauded, and I was so proud of them. 

If you are a part of the Mom 2.0 community, you can vote for this year's Iris Awards. If you're NOT, you can still nominate for the Iris Awards people's choice! All nominations are due by this FRIDAY, MARCH 16. 

NOMINATE FOR AN IRIS AWARD HERE (open to Mom 2.0 community members)

NOMINATE FOR A PEOPLE'S CHOICE AWARD HERE (open to anyone)

If you like my work, here is a sampling of things I published this year; I would love to have your support with a nomination, if you're inclined. 

Washington Post: Teaching Kids About Healthy Relationships

TODAY Parents: How to Be the Worst Mother-in-Law Ever

TODAY Parents: The Things Mama Didn't Say

TODAY Parents: Dads Can Too, if We Let Them

TODAY Parents: Don't Be Afraid to Leap and Get Your Hair Wet

Today's Parent: My Son Idolizes Football Players, So We Had a Tough Talk

 

Here's to Strong Women #iwd2018

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For #internationalwomensday, here's a high five and a hug for all of the amazing and wonderful women in my life:

My mother, who raised me to be smart, fearless, and resilient. Those traits served me well through some of the toughest points in my life.

My sister, whose loyalty rivals that of the most faithful friend. She has always been the best sister and stellar role model.

A friend from Pakistan, who is raising three kind and sweet boys with her husband, also from Pakistan. They are Muslim and I am proud to have them as friends.

A friend who was blindsided after 17 years of marriage when her husband left her for their nanny. On their daughter's birthday. And she is fierce and brilliant and now thriving.

All of the female writers I know, who work so hard to put words together in meaningful ways to make you think, or laugh, or chance minds.

The mom from my hometown who raised a transgender child to adulthood and is doing a spectacular job of letting her son be who he is with enough love to fill the world.

The stunningly beautiful mom with a son on my son's baseball team who was pregnant with their third child when her husband left her and found the courage to remarry; her son now calls HIM dad and they are incredibly happy.

All of the women who support me, inspire me, love me, and elevate me to be better. And those I don't know yet; I see you. I applaud you. I celebrate every one of you.

[I loved this graphic, Mom 2.0 Summit!]

The Imperfect Perfection that is Netflix

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Introduction: Madison is our entertainment guru, keeping us up to date on the latest books, TV shows, and movies. She loves to cover pop culture and I'm glad to have her voice in this capacity.

{This post written by Madison Ward, Superstar Intern}

Looking back on the energy-absorbing year of 2017, it is easy to reflect on the good times and the bad times of the year. As it is increasingly known, I love entertainment and I have found myself pondering the best and the worst parts of how I do television and how 2017 did television.

Entertainment Magazine’s Best of 2017 Awards is a phenomenal recap of the year and has made me even more grateful for how accessible all of these amazing creations are. Now only having cable television myself, I must resort to watching my shows through channel apps like Amazon, Hulu, and--most definitely--Netflix. But as much as I, like millions of others, have found Netflix a safe haven from all the stress and exhaustion of everyday life, I have also decided Netflix isn’t perfect.

Now, as heartbreaking and soul crushing as it is to admit, Netflix is the equivalent of typical movie Cinderella. I don’t care how expensive your new dress is or your new shoes or your new confidence; I knew you when you were trashy, and that can never fully be scrubbed from my mind. Netflix is a secondary source of television, real television, and real television is a real princess, born and bred and giving scraps to the poor. As much as I would love to fully appreciate everything that Netflix gives me--all the comedies, and action, and romance--I know it came from another source and that that source caved in, and let Netflix borrow it, which inevitably makes me feel like it isn’t making any money besides the rented position on the secondary source, which makes it feel cheap, which makes everything cheap.

Though this is an issue for adopted movies and television shows, Netflix Originals are an unforeseen solution and downfall. Netflix creating their own works was ingenious. This way, the network can provide entertainment from other networks, simultaneously becoming an actual network, producing its own goods, making it just like any of the other channels it derives from. (And they are good! Great even, in most cases.)

Netflix, although it is an inexpensive source of entertainment, makes bank and spends its money extremely wisely on scenic locations and blossoming young, never-seen-before actors/actresses. Their shows are humanely made, stressing emotions most millennial real television shows try to hide from. Unfortunately, Netflix is also very impressed with their new way of providing for the common people of the couch potato variety, and have been popping out Netflix Originals nonstop. Because of this, most of the originals don’t end up making the cut and are done after barely starting off one season. The time limit between cutting off these shows comes way too fast for mine and many others’ opinions, causing at least one show that I am aware of, Sense 8, to be brought back for a finale, because the audience went crazy at it’s untimely demise. Reproducing good television at this rate is unhealthy and the mother of a beast that Netflix is, cannot withstand it--no matter how successful they currently seem to be.

Because of this apparent success, Netflix is becoming inflated with popularity to the point that other extremely famous actors/actresses have also joined the ‘Original’ Game of Unknowns. Will Smith partook in the recently released Netflix Original movie, Bright, and Tim Allen and Dax Shepard can also be seen in the Netflix Original El Camino Christmas. Good for Netflix. Look at them go! The only thing I am worried about, is them actually have to be going after spreading themselves too thin, while also bulking themselves ten thousand sets a day with new, new, and more new. If Netflix keeps cutting everything before they even touch ground, they must have incredibly short contracts for their actors/actresses and if not, those ‘fillers’ won’t be happy for very long. I’m not happy for them! Netflix’s popularity will have people coming back for a while, but like everything, Netflix will one day meet its peak, and I fear that day is approaching faster than expected.

I don’t think all of this will be happening in 2018, but soon enough. And yeah, maybe I’m being over dramatic, maybe I know nothing about directing or financial situations networks may find themselves in, but some of the things I have said must be true (I mean, statistically, I can’t be completely off, can I?... right???).

In the past year of 2017, Netflix has reached new heights, impressive and dangerous. I’m worried those heights will drive them right over the cliff of sustainability and into the network equivalent of cardiac arrest. I still love Netflix and most of everything it provides, but the things you love are not always perfect and I can admit that I think Netflix belongs in that category.

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Short Stories: Working on My Own Changes

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When I met my husband, I was on the comeback trail from divorce after a 10-year relationship that wasn't healthy for me. My self-esteem was in tatters and I bore the scars.

Now, Will and I have been married for 11 years and together for 13. There have been fantastic highs and frustrating lows. We are, above all, committed to each other. But it's not always easy, and I have often said to him, "I know it's hard being married to someone scarred by a bad relationship. I know getting through can be difficult."

What I realized - just this week, in fact - was that I was still holding onto those scars. Gripping them, like a shield against my heart. I couldn't see the tiny fissures on his heart because I was so focused on mine. I haven't given him the leeway to be supported, because *I* was the scarred one. I kind of had this idea that I was the one in the right most of the time and any time I felt threatened, it must be because he was wrong.

I'm opening my eyes to the ways I can be a better spouse, and actively working toward elevating him and not just protecting myself. It's difficult to learn and take a hard look at our own behaviors and biases, because it means we have to change. It's liberating, too. And humbling.

When you find someone worth changing for, it's 100% worthwhile.

The Good Moral and Natural Philosophy of the Afterlife ‘Place’ {Guest Post by Madison Ward}

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Introduction: Madison is our entertainment guru, keeping us up to date on the latest books, TV shows, and movies. She loves to cover pop culture and I'm glad to have her voice in this capacity.

{This post written by Madison Ward, Superstar Intern}

I do not recall how my preschool teacher decided to first explain the afterlife, but I remember at that point in time thinking that heaven was a bowl of m&m’s. A big, giant glass bowl of m&m’s on a long wooden table, with me sitting at the head. I am not sure how this image was put in my mind, if my teacher mentioned an m&m’s bowl as an example, or, at that point in time, I was just really feeling m&m’s and felt they represented a satisfying “heaven” for me.

Whatever the reason, my thoughts changed as I grew older. Heaven became less a place, a room, or a table, and more an intangible existence. Many people have tried to understand the possibilities of the afterlife, but as the possibilities are infinite, I have found myself detached from that sort of constant guessing game. I don’t know what the afterlife will bring, I don’t know how we will be judged or if we will be judged, but it is occasionally interesting to study other people’s hypotheses.

A couple months ago, I decided to watch the new show The Good Place, which was an unexpected delight for me and a large bundle of those interesting hypotheses. It looked easy and fun; I wasn’t sure of its quality, but then I wasn’t sure about The Office either before I started that and I constantly rewatch it now.

Not only was The Good Place hilariously charming and undoubtedly creative, it was enlightening and teaches me concepts in very receivable terms every time I watch it.

The cast is amazing. Manny Jacinto, who plays Jianyu/Jason Mendoza has also been in an episode of The Good Doctor and is incredibly good at staying in character, a very stupidly funny character at that. Jameela Jamil, who plays Tahani Al-Jimal, has never acted before in a TV show and has already mastered social gestures and emotional tics as signs of low-key reactions in every episode. William Jackson Harper, who plays Chidi Anagonye, has perfected being a constant irksome, and yet extremely relatable, nerd and continues to surprise with his adaptability handling concepts of moral philosophy and responses to inappropriate humor.

The show, in all, seems like any other late-night comedy on NBC, but has gone further with actually nurturing some key ideas of philosophy and controversial scenarios, similar to The Good Doctor, but in a way that I can actually use as a reference for my AP Literature class for our analysis of the novel Frankenstein.

Romanticism is a big theme of the book and the weight of nature and its inevitable impact can be traced back to Locke, Kant, and other such philosophers, who have also been highlighted throughout episodes of The Good Place. Kristen Bell is the final character of the human quad, Eleanor, and draws on the concept of pushing these natural moral and ethical limits, trying to change after death, and trying to be defined post-judgement.

In the show The Good Place, Heaven isn’t a thing. Not really. Neither is Hell. There is The Good Place and there is The Bad Place and every single act or decision a human makes on earth has a point value like stocks: negative 3.126, positive 7.452, etc., until they ultimately have hundreds or thousands or millions of positive or negative values, or in between, though since this afterlife is strict, the in between is basically negative.

The show does pull from traditional ideas, but is known for tricks and twists that will make you doubt everything you thought you knew. It is a new favorite of all my friends and family who had time to try it out for themselves and a new outlook to an immortal question. What happens when we die?

A bowl of m&m’s will wait for our consumption, if there even is consumption in the afterlife. A neighborhood of positive or negative point-getters will house our souls, socializing for the endless amount of time every death results in. Or a resurrection such as Frankenstein if we are so cursed and evolved by then.

Whatever the case, this show has made me lighter and brighter, literally and mentally. Little brain power is required, but much curiosity and the acknowledgement of potential outcomes nurture our little minds to doubt and to hope, to see the reality of our actions, but also the ability to conquer our predicaments, even if those predicaments may be ourselves.

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The Good Doctor: Better-Than-Good TV {Guest post by Madison Ward}

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Introduction: Madison is our entertainment guru, keeping us up to date on the latest books, TV shows, and movies. She loves to cover pop culture and I'm glad to have her voice in this capacity.

{This post written by Madison Ward, Superstar Intern}

I can unequivocally and undeniably state that I am not a fan of Bates Motel.

It may have something to do with the creepiness or the incest or the lack of comfort it provides. Of course, it is supposed to make your skin crawl and I’m sure it is much more dynamic and has various layered meaning within all the uneasiness, but I will not take part in that.

The main character is played by Freddie Highmore and he has recently started with another TV show, The Good Doctor, as an autistic surgeon named Dr. Shaun Murphy. Because I am a stubborn person, I ashamedly was convinced that Highmore’s past acting roles would affect what this new show means and create another uncomfortable, creepy late-night watch. Unknowingly initiated into watching it with my family one night in the living room, I was immediately proven wrong.

The Good Doctor is an ABC medical drama that is derived from an earlier television series created in South Korea. It focuses on a doctor with autism being hired as a surgeon at a hospital; he is wracked with not only doubt in his ability, but challenge to his already limited chances as an autistic individual. Sentimental, but also inherently political with doctors challenging and questioning one another and their actions, the series tests the waters of prejudice and expectation and the remarkable and/or understandable reality of outliers, of irregular intangibles.

Though Dr. Shaun Murphy is autistic, he is extremely high-functioning along with a lot of other miraculous attributes to create a condition that results in an almost perfect attitude and intelligence in a surgical setting, possibly a bit on the more extreme side. There were/are concerns of him being unemotional and/or uncompassionate to the already anxious and terrified patients surgeons have to deal with, and this may be true, but his ‘cold-heartedness’ in the field also results in a completely unbiased, fact-minded individual driven by the organs on the table, not the heart in particular.

This is not to say that Shaun doesn’t feel anything. As said above, this show is not overtly sentimental, but displays emotion in a way people are less familiar recognizing. The characters in the show try to navigate this with him as well, not being able to fully relate, which causes confusion, doubt, and bias. In many situations in life--race, gender, and now disabilities--this misunderstanding has held back various groups of people for ridiculous amounts of time. What is believed to be limitations can also open up amazing opportunities for other development, and Shaun is a perfect example of that.

Freddie Highmore plays Dr. Shaun Murphy perfectly, and he is not the only cast member who has piqued my interest. This show is supposed to be kind of like a new and improved Grey’s Anatomy, but where that show was yummily encased in romantic trysts and social disasters, The Good Doctor steadies a firmer hand on the hierarchy of the political wheel and how characters each, differently, choose to navigate through this medical path. Characters Dr. Neil Melendez, Claire Brown, Jared Kalu, Marcus Andrews, Aaron Glassman, Jessica Preston, and Allegra Aoki all do a fantastic job at making me hate and love them at the same time.

This may seem unpleasant and confusing for most, but viewers typically don’t want a character they can always trust in or one that will always deceive them. Characters grow, and if one is perfect or a disaster the entire time, then there is no development. These developments are placed periodically throughout the show/movie’s journey; what this show does is reflect on controversial decision making throughout every episode, constantly testing the characters’ priorities and morals, which is understandable. Even the people I hate more than others, have situational circumstances or motives that I can see and relate to why and begrudgingly accept the result.

There is no perfect answer in decision making, especially in surgical scenarios, just like the trolley problem. Let’s say you’re steering a trolley which has lost its brakes on a track that ends in two different paths, one with one person, the other with five. Which path would you chose to run over? That one person may be your spouse or Mother Teresa or could be a bank robber or a serial killer, same with the five on the other path. Who do you decide to kill? Whose lives are you risking and somehow have the unfair control over? The Good Doctor does a noteworthy job of complimenting the wavering circumstances with the resulting imperfect decisions, through the values and heart of the characters that made it, and what becomes of it all.

Though this show seems increasingly intense as I continue ranting, with characters stepping on toes and breaking hearts of a poor autistic dude in the process, combined with biology and probability, the directors create a surprisingly humorous atmosphere to the very serious issue of disability and sickly patients. They even play on The Boys Next Door and allow Shaun’s dialogue to be hilariously unintentional, insulting superiors and blatantly proving others wrong. All the doctors are extremely gifted at comebacks and continuously leave me reeling from the quick wit with which they challenge each other’s positions.

The winter finale for the first half of the show ended on December 4th and will return in 2018. This show has become an immediate success for ABC, and after only the first two episodes, received so much attention they added five more episodes, making it an 18-episode first season (commonly unheard of!). Humbling me and shutting down prejudice, whether it be on cast preference or autism ignorance, The Good Doctor will hopefully be around for a very long time to beat people upside the head with open debate on controversial beliefs and actions based on those beliefs.

(P.S. I also watched The Good Place right after I caught up with this, and the ‘Good’ is an understatement in both their titles! Makes me want to try The Good Wife.)

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Roller Coaster Thrills: the Stinger

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When I was a teenager, I loved roller coasters. Fidgeting with anticipation, I’d wait in long lines for the Vortex, The Beast, and the Racer. Later, I stopped enjoying roller coasters after an unrelated neck injury, and once I had my son, my risk tolerance decreased significantly.

It was when I started writing about cars that I rediscovered my love for sharp turns, surprising twists, and spins. That sharp intake of breath when you stop, hard. The laughter that bubbles up when the turn squeals the tires and your whole body shifts to the side. It’s flying down a hill, your stomach suspended.

#StingerIsHere

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Women who love to drive: Alice Chase, Fadra Nally, Me, Meagan Shamy, and Stacie Connerty

Kia staged a course for their new Stinger along the windy route in the Angeles National Forest Highway, finishing in the oversized parking lot at Magic Mountain, the Six Flags amusement park in Visalia, California. The loops and steep hills of steel roller coaster tracks created a beautiful, thrilling backdrop to a beautiful, thrilling vehicle.

The manufacturer says the Stinger is a throwback to the muscle cars of the 70s; the driving event was chock-full of 1970s references from the color scheme to the play list in the lounge when we arrived at the Garland Hotel. To put a cherry on top, the Brady Bunch house was a short walk away, and you can bet I walked down there and took a picture with my friend Alice in front of that landmark.

The drama of the Stinger is evident in the marketing materials, videos, and in the voices of the brand representatives. It’s clear that Kia is ecstatic about this car. There seems to be a new spring in their step, and rightly so: the Stinger, in all of its glary, can compete as a performance car against some of the top sport sedans in its class. Kia’s vision was a performance vehicle that could “fit two couples and their things, to arrive in style at a fabulous location, and to also do it incredibly rapidly, ride comfortably, and with a lot of speed.”

Created with Adrenaline and Euphoria

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Kia tested the Stinger for over 6000 miles on the Nürburgring in Germany for speed, did braking runs in the Austrian Alps, completed winter testing near the Arctic Circle in Sweden, and tested its heat tolerance in the Mojave Desert. All in all, the Stinger went through over one million miles of testing around the world.

The promotional video set my heart racing; I could feel the smile spread across my face. The words they used were thrilling: Adrenaline. Anticipation. Euphoria. Exhilaration. Passion. The smile on the face of the designer, ex-Audi head designer Peter Schreyer, says it all.

The manufacturer hired Albert Biermann, who had been the chief engineer for BMW and spent 32 years with the luxury brand, between Biermann and Schreyer, Kia anticipates ushering out the “pre-Stinger” and moving forward into the “post-Stinger” era of design and performance for the brand. Kia says this car is unlike any Kia that has come before it.

Yep. This is my roller coaster.

Smokin' Hot

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The 70s-era vibe was strong with lava lamps and the color palette of that decade. Making turns was fun on the course, squealing tires all the way. 

The Stinger is designed with a long hood, long wheelbase, broad shoulders (they call them haunches, which evokes an animalistic feel), and a fastback profile. The wheels are pushed out at the corners to give it a firm stance and it grips the road as you drive it. It’s a little longer than a BMW 3-series and has a longer wheel base (the distance between the front and wheel tires) than the Audi A5 and Lexus GS. And it has more cargo and leg room than the A5, the BMW 640i, and the Porsche Panamera.

Believe it or not, the Stinger has more horsepower than a base model of the Porsche Panamera. And after testing the Panamera on the track against the Stinger, I can attest that the Stinger stands up to the scrutiny. I took a ride in the Porsche with The Robb Report’s Jason Harper, who made me laugh with glee as he tore up the track, and sat shotgun with Kia’s James Bell, who raced around the corners so sharply and expertly in the Stinger that the tires smoked.

Is It Safe?

 George Notaras, creator of MotoManTV, is one of my favorite car enthusiasts. Check out his work at  MotoMan.TV . 

George Notaras, creator of MotoManTV, is one of my favorite car enthusiasts. Check out his work at MotoMan.TV

Well, that's up to you. What I can tell you is that the Stinger is made of 55% high-strength steel and ultra high-strength steel, which must be formed and molded in the molten stage. They're targeting top crash ratings from NHTSA and IIHS, and the rock-solid body is serious business. In fact, the strength of the body and expanded haunches help the suspension do its job and to give it the rigidity of the German sedans Biermann and Schreyer are used to working on. And that doesn't even start to cover all of the other standard safety features. 

The physics of this car are impressive; Kia has considered how the air moves around and hugs the car to reduce turbulence, which gives it a smoother ride. Ducts also allow air to travel over the engine to keep it cool. At $31,900 for a base Stinger and about $50K for a Stinger GT with all the bells and whistles, it’s tens of thousands of dollars less than a Porsche, and it’s $10K less than a BMW 440i. The affordability of this dream is compelling.

The hand-stitched components and aircraft-inspired cockpit are impressive. This is the Kia of the future, and I’m all in.

Get in and buckle your seat belts, keep your hands inside the car, and get ready for a great ride.

 My new friend  Jason YarbOROUGH  at a break in the road. 

My new friend Jason YarbOROUGH at a break in the road. 

JUST THE FACTS, MA’AM:

  • Starts at: $31,900 MSRP (2.0L) to $49.200 (GT2); All Wheel Drive: add $2K
  • 25 combined miles per gallon of fuel
  • Top speed: 167
  • 3.3 liter V6 twin turbo engine in the GT and GT2
  • 365 hp, 376 lb-ft of torque, and a 0-100 km/h time of 4.7 seconds
  • Tires: long-lasting, all-condition, best-in-class Michelin Pilot Sport tires tuned for the Stinger
  • Brakes: 4-piston Brembo
  • Harman Kardon sound system with 720 watts, 15 high-performance speakers, under seat subwoofers, and Clari-Fi Digital Music Restoration Technology
  • UVO infotainment system with Android Auto and Apple CarPlay
  • The driver’s seat has a 16-way and 12-way front seat for the driver and passenger, with an added air-cell lumbar adjustable bolster for the Stinger.

Learn more: https://www.kia.com/us/en/vehicle/stinger/2018/overview

Disclosure: Kia paid for my airfare, room, and meals; there were no conditions set regarding what I would write about my experience. Many thanks to Kia for providing a few of the photos in this post. 

 Perma-smile. It is hard to frown when you're having a fantastic time in a great car. 

Perma-smile. It is hard to frown when you're having a fantastic time in a great car. 

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The Edge of Texas: Me, Jack Ingram, Mark Cuban, Texas Monthly, and Mazda

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When I moved to Texas, the cover of a Texas Monthly magazine caught my eye at the grocery store, and as soon as I opened it to the first page, I was hooked. The writing is extraordinarily good in a way that makes me want to be a better writer. Skip Hollandsworth, an award-winning journalist on staff, writes feature stories so rich with detail that I am always a little sad when I'm finished reading them. 

Back in May at a Texas Auto Writers Association event, I met the new Texas Monthly editor in chief, Tim Taliaferro. I liked him immediately; he exudes a warmth and deep intelligence when he speaks. And when speaking in front of a crowd, I discovered, Tim's vocabulary is as rich as the words on the pages of his magazine. One of the best things in life is to listen to an intelligent person use the English language to its fullest. The words themselves are like tiny poems, each. 

The longer I'm in Austin, the more I discover that this is a small town in a small world, and everyone is connected. As it turns out, Tim was a classmate of a friend of mine, and he invited both of us to attend the Edge of Texas, a new event his magazine was hosting in Dallas. With a lineup that included Jack Ingram and Mark Cuban, I didn't want to miss it. Susan and I made plans to make the trip up to Dallas with another mutual friend, Mary Beth, and DriveShop loaned me a Mazda CX-5 for the three-hour ride. 

 Ready to roll in our mazda cx-5!

Ready to roll in our mazda cx-5!

I was excited to see Mark Cuban, because my son used to bring home a new sports book every week from the library, and the one about the Mavericks and their rise to the championship after Cuban bought the team was fascinating. Hollandsworth interviewed him with a wry, straight-man approach that was paired perfectly with Mark Cuban's uber-confident approach. Will Cuban run for President in 2020? No one knows. But he sure talked about policy quite a bit

 Skip Hollandsworth interviewed Mark Cuban at the Joule Hotel at the Edge of Texas event. 

Skip Hollandsworth interviewed Mark Cuban at the Joule Hotel at the Edge of Texas event. 

Next on the schedule was Jack Ingram, appearing with four young songwriters he has been mentoring through the organization he helped to found, Texas Songwriter U. Just having the chance to see Jack Ingram live was a treat. 

 Mignon, Jack ingram, Andy langer, and Jefferson Clay on stage at the Edge of Texas event in dallas. 

Mignon, Jack ingram, Andy langer, and Jefferson Clay on stage at the Edge of Texas event in dallas. 

All four songwriters were stunningly good, but Susan, Mary Beth, and I each had our favorites. Mine was Mignon Grabois, a native Texan who has been performing since she was a little girl, and has already shared a stage with Brad Paisley and Chris Young. Check her out, because she is a rising star. 

The evening after the event, Texas Monthly hosted a party at the Longhorn Ballroom, which is an iconic country and western dance hall near the convention center in Dallas. Several of the top chefs in Texas provided small bites for the crowd, and the lines were long. Once they depleted a little, I jumped in to wait for the sweet potato-stuffed crepes from Austin-based Launderette, and may or may not have eaten 4 of them. Maybe. 

I drove our replete, happy group back to Austin in the borrowed CX-5, which had plenty of cup holders and leg room. Susan and Mary Beth got to enjoy the ride while I sped through the changes in terrain along I-35. 

 My friend Jenna looks for hearts in nature all the time, so when I see them now, I think of her. This one was right in the middle of my path at Bull creek park. 

My friend Jenna looks for hearts in nature all the time, so when I see them now, I think of her. This one was right in the middle of my path at Bull creek park. 

If you haven't been to Austin, you may not realize how beautiful the terrain is. It's not the flat, dusty ranch lands of the west, or the concrete metropolis of Dallas, or the swampy, humid lowlands in Houston. It's rocky and wild and gorgeous, on the eastern edge of Hill Country. Near my house, there is a park along Bull Creek where stone walls and giant boulders coexist with hikers and swimmers, and kids and adults and pets of all sizes enjoy nature. 

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I clearly don't visit these places enough; when I brought my son and a friend, the boys enjoyed jumping from rock to rock, and I loved watching them pick up rocks and explore. 

I've been in Texas for nine years now, and in some ways, it seems like it gets a little bigger every time I drive across it. Good friends, good times, good vehicle, and I'm ready to explore some more. And from what I've seen of Tim Taliaferro and the updated Texas Monthly, it's going to get better and better. 

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TELL ME MORE ABOUT THE MAZDA CX-5

From a vehicle perspective, if you like to take road trips in a sporty compact SUV with enough room for 3 people and their luggage on a long weekend, the Mazda CX-5 is a great choice. 

Mazda CX-5 details:
MSRP: From $24,045 (excellent value)
MPG: Up to 24 city / 31 highway
5/5 score from cars.com
Seats: 5
Engine: 187-hp, 2.5-liter I-4 (regular gas)
Quiet ride, good pickup

Ideal customers for the CX-5: small families with kids older than 2; single people; couples of any age. 

I like to refer to Cars.com's car seat check when recommending a vehicle for families, and this is what they say. In other words, great for forward-facing car seats and boosters; less so for infant seats. 

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 The Mazda company SUV goes everywhere... including Little League games! 

The Mazda company SUV goes everywhere... including Little League games! 

 I like Mazda's Command Control knob for the on-screen menu. So easy. 

I like Mazda's Command Control knob for the on-screen menu. So easy. 

 

 

 

Ragnarok: Funnier than the Average Marvel {guest post by Madison Ward}

 Official poster via Marvel

Official poster via Marvel

Introduction: Madison is our entertainment guru, keeping us up to date on the latest books, TV shows, and movies. She loves to cover pop culture and we're glad to have her voice in this capacity.

{This post written by Madison Ward, Superstar Intern}

Warning: spoilers ahead!

When realizing they would not be a part of the large group starring in Captain America: Civil War, Chris Hemsworth (Thor) and Mark Ruffalo (Hulk) were determined to top--or at least rival--the big cast with their own in the next Thor movie, Thor: Ragnarok. After finishing the film, the Ragnarok group couldn’t be happier with how it all turned out. Hemsworth and the cast joked that this was not only the best Marvel film yet, but the best film, period. Now, I’m not sure I would go that far, but I, too, am pleased and surprised by what the team pulled together.

Refreshing and rebellious, this movie did not lack in humor or action and repeatedly confronted the audience with a new, more irreverent Marvel.

Though Hemsworth is drool-worthy and dependable, I will admit that his first two individual movies, Thor and Thor: The Dark World, did little to nothing for me. The action is always exciting and thrilling, but his character went from arrogant to boy scout so fast it gave me whiplash, and throughout those first two movies, Thor just felt like he was missing something. I’m surprised it took them so long to pull out the ‘the hammer is just a tool’ twist and how he is much more powerful than anyone except his daddio even knew.

Looking closer to other consequences that quickly followed Odin’s death, it seems like that one event unlocked several powers--or made them less fearful--as Hela and others started rising up against Asgard right after Thor and Loki’s father passed away. I can see this possibly being a reason Thor finally evolved into his stronger self (that scene was flipping amazing, by the way), and even though I wish I would have gotten a more sooner into his growth as a god, not just a person, I am happy with how this movie plot played out and believe the wait was worth it.

With several new characters arising and different character combinations being tested, Thor: Ragnarok created its very own dream team that may have been smaller than the Civil War cast, but were more crucial. I am all for chucking as many characters as you can get in a film, all with their own power and role, but with the more you take on, the less personal you can get with each one, and Ragnarok's narrower focus allowed the directors to develop each of the main characters continuously and harmoniously.

Thor, Loki, Hulk, and Valkyrie may have not fully bonded together by the end of the film but gave the audience enough to see all their values and how they will all, for the most part, end up on the same side from now on. (Loki can always teeter-totter a bit, but more on that later.)

But what the movie pulled us in with the most was the witty, almost childish, interactions the cast carried with through its entirety. In a meeting with Marvel Studios chief Kevin Feige, Hemsworth made a point to want to make his role more interesting and to integrate more humor into the movie and create a comfortable, enjoyable atmosphere for all those watching, according to Vanity Fair. This film was about fun and their humor paid off ten times over. Thor and Hulk’s ‘buddy comedy’-like partnership and lovingly aggressive conversations and Thor and Loki’s ‘only a sibling would understand’ banter and hilarious tiffs made the movie lighter and not suffocated with so much tension. The innocent, yet inappropriate quality that all these interactions withheld, made for a very interesting ice breaker compared to the other Thor films; possibly all the other Marvel films as well.

 Magazine cover via Entertainment Weekly

Magazine cover via Entertainment Weekly

Another refreshing and ironic aspect of Thor: Ragnarok was how the solution to their Hela problem (ha, ha, ha, hella’ problem) ended up being siccing another, worse evil upon her, one that they had been trying to prevent the entire journey. Their resolution of their issue was creating another issue and hopefully this will not come to bite them in the butt later on.

Speaking of later on, this movie was also an amazing in-betweener to prepare all of us Marvel fans for what’s in store for the next Avengers film, Avengers: Infinity War. Here is what we now can assume:

  • Thanos is on their tail and since they are in space and the Guardians of the Galaxy (GotG) are going to be in Avengers: Infinity War, this is probably where they will meet up as GotG will probably help them out of this extremely sticky situation.

  • Loki has the tesseract and, if Thanos suddenly knows where everyone is, it is very likely Loki tipped Thanos off and is being a little turncoat jerk again, sad as it is.

  • Drax and Hulk’s first meetup will be pure three-year-old-tantrum-dialogue gold.

  • Hulk is still Hulk and Banner warned Thor earlier that if he Hulked out again, which he obviously did, he may not be able to ever change back again.

  • Throughout this film, Avengers: Infinity War, and Avengers 4, it is said to contain Hulk’s ‘individual movie’ since they aren’t going to make an actual one for him, just trade around and resolve his storyline woven throughout all the other messes happening now.

It is well-known that I am not a very patient human being and will hopefully survive the long lapse between now and April when the next Avengers is said to come out. Black Panther does come out next month, so I will have a bit to tide me over, but also more material to even further ache for. And as Marvel continues to raise the bar even higher and higher, we can all pray that their future films will live up to their current reputation and that our minds won’t explode when they do.

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